Blog No.179
Good morning sweetie and Happy Christmas to you,
It has been a while and I know in previous years for December I have done special things to celebrate but sometimes other things take my time up more than my mistressing. So apologies for the lack of updates this year.
Who would have thought that 2023 would go by so fast and yet so much has happened in a short amount of time?
Smokey – 16 years old (2020)
So are you having a Fetish Festive Christmas this year?
For many, they will have the traditional Christmas of inviting everyone together for Christmas dinner and watching the Queen’s speech at 3 pm (ops sorry King’s speech). I still can’t get the hang that we have a king now and not a queen. She reigned for 50 years of my life and that is a hard routine to change.
The word family is a controversial topic I know but it all depends on how you were brought up and with what type of parents. To me, my true family is my furbabies. Anyone who has followed me for a while will know that since I moved into my home just under 20 years ago my furbabies have been my everything.
Yes, they talk to me (no I’m not a crazy old cat lady. Well not crazy yet). They give me hugs and comfort when it is needed and just being in my house makes the 4 walls, a home. That is all I ask from them and obviously, I give back my unconditional love forever for them.
Tigi – 17 Years Old (Younger Photo)
So unfortunately 2 years ago on the 11th of this month Smokey my eldest pusscat and will always be my first love (because he is and was slightly older than Tigi) passed from a horrible Thyroid illness. He declined over a month previous and was comforted by his sister Tigi til the end whilst cradled in my arms.
Tigi didn’t take his passing well and for a good 12-18 months after would hide for hours on end wanting to be alone and when she came out she would opera sing calling for him at the top of my staircase at random hours of the day and night.
Taylor – 10 Years Old (Younger Photo)
Everything was normalish as could be, right up to the end of November 2023, Then, if I think back she started to act a little different as she went off her food and treats that she normally liked. I was very observant of her as I wanted to see if it was her depression that was taking her eating habits away or if she was ill. This went on for 14 days. For the last 5 days, she barely had anything to eat or drink. I tried to get her to take some small quantities of food and water throughout the day and night but she wouldn’t even lift her head to acknowledge what I put there for her.
To this day, I still think it was her depression that she gave in to. Yes, we all have to get on with life in general after a bereavement and yes it takes time to heal a broken heart but with cats/animals it affects them differently. Many species of the animal kingdom live only for one partner. I know Tigs was Smokey’s Sister but sometimes that is enough for an individual. For Tigi, Smokey was her everything.
Sandy – 13 Years Old (Younger Photo)
I think she struggled with her emotions more than she let me know. She passed at 11:20 pm on Sunday 10th December 2023. Unfortunately not peaceful. As soon as she felt her time was up she was very vocal to her last breath. Calling out to Smokey, maybe saying “I’m coming smokes, wait for me on the green fields at Heaven Gate. I won’t be long”.
It is terrible when a loved one leaves you but when you see them suffer for so long I am grateful that her broken heart has been healed now by being with her brother again. When Smokey passed it was painful but I had Tigs to cuddle up with as she was Smokey’s blood family. Now that she has passed as well I have Gorgus who is the next eldest but it’s not Tigi or Smokey. I love and cherish all my furbabies the same but they were my first kitties and I will never forget them.
Gorgus – 17 years old (Present Day Photo)
Gorgus is gorgeous, and very loving in her own way but since Tigis has gone she has been very understanding and affectionate, more so than ever before. She even sitting right by me whilst I type this blog. Bless her.
Each time a furbaby passes it breaks a piece of my heart away and gets me ready for the next time. This is not a nice thing to think about but the more kitties one has the more times your heart is bound to be broken.
Tommy – 15 Years Old (Younger Photo)
I’m a gluten for punishment. I have had 9 furbabies over the past 19.5 years. 4 were strays that walked into my garden and didn’t leave (they know where there is a loving home), but unfortunately, they are no longer with us due to underlying illnesses that took them.
2 were given to me as brother and sister (Smokey 17.4 years old, and Tigi 19.5 years old), Sandy was born in a neighbor’s shed a few gardens down from me and escaped to my garden (don’t know how as he was weeks old when I found him) Tommy was unwanted and Taylor was rescued from a friends dog that he cornered their back garden.
Then last of all is Bertie. They say cats warm to you for a reason. He walked into my garden in May 2022 when Smokey passed in the previous December. As he is a white cat maybe he’s Smokey’s messenger disguised as an angel. He is around 2 years old now. A whirlwind of energy but he has been put in his place a few times by the elderly generation. It’s like putting a 20-year-old in an old people’s home. We are all subdued and calm and he wants to play and run around all the time when he is not stealing the other kitties’ beds.
Bertie – 2 years old (Summer 2023)
So this is a message I would like to leave you with…
Please love your furbabies with all your heart and treat them with lots of playtimes and treats as they will give you so much pleasure in return.
Sorry this was not as a fetish-related blog as you may have expected but my furbabies have been taking up a lot of my emotions and time lately and this topic of cracking down on unloved and unwanted animals needs to stop. If you don’t think you can give the love that they will need don’t say yes to a furbaby in the first place.
I know a lot of my clients and friends have furbabies themselves and shower them with lots of love that they deserve. Thank you for doing that and you will be rewarded unconditionally with your furbabies love.
So have a very furbaby-cuddly Christmas and I will catch up with you before the new year MLx
Thursday 29th December 2022
Blog No.175
Wow, what a December we’ve all had. If it’s not the fact that we have to arrange family celebrations for the one day of the year e can eat and drink what we want but we had to deal with viruses and – degrees cold weather.
29/12/22 – One of the New and Improved Hairstyles For Mistress Lucy
I was going to do the blogmas that I did the year before but it crept up on us before we knew it and I didn’t have time to prepare. I never like to do the same thing every year but I am posting on Twitter a lot more. so have a look on there and you will be able to follow me on my hairdressing and barbering fun journey that I am on.
Christmas like every year is a major build up and then in a cough and sneeze it’s gone. I, like every year (but I’m fine with it), spend it with my 6 furbaby kitties. This year was a little sad, due to my eldest baby boy cat passing the year before. Every day feels strange without him but December always brings the memory back closer to my heart.
Well on a happier note, I have got closer to a few of my clients this year. Great friendship is always better than relationships I think. This year I have made 5 new friendships that I value greatly. We have had fun in session and out of session. I have had lots of fun apart from that but choosing your closest friends is not always possible with everyone. Friendship happens without you noticing it sometimes.
It happens with you enjoy each other’s company one day at a time and before you know it you have known each other for 3-4 or more years.
29/12/22 – Pussy-bow Hairdressing Cape
Time passes much more quickly than we realize but in that time you get to know one another and then you realize that life is not just materialistic but more importantly knowing that you have someone there to put out a helping hand when you need it.
Choosing to be in the industry comes with big decisions over time. I chose to be a mistress because it’s in my nature and over the years family started to put their noses in where it wasn’t needed. So I had to make the choice of progression or family. Unfortunately, if anyone is holding you back on what you want to do or be then sorry they have to go. A harsh decision but we only have one life and we shouldn’t waste it. So the consequences of my decision comes with Christmas day being alone with the kitties (which I love) and birthdays being just another day (apart from this one just gone when I was 50 years old) but I’m fine with that.
I have been a mistress for a long time and looking back over the years on how I have changed and developed I can sit here now and say I am very happy in my own skin. Yes, I have gone from being a soft individual that maybe anyone could have walked all over ( i don’t mean trampling as I do the trampling in my sessions) to a tough old bird (as someone once described me) that would give you a good hiding if the situation needed it. Much wiser is what I am now but unfortunately not as wealthy as I would like to be due to the pandemic. It has not helped a lot of us really but we are not the only ones as it’s everyone internationally that is suffering from it as well.
So as I mentioned earlier, I would have loved to do something special for you in December but I have something just as enjoyable in the coming months that will make up for it.
If you look at my Twitter page you will see that I launched the first of my new design hairdressing capes. I will be releasing more colours in time to come but I thought that red would be appropriate for Christmas. I had been working on the design for it for a good while and gave my twitter flowers (as I mistakenly called them one time by mis-spelling followers and it has stuck ever since) a sneak peek in the weeks previously and it intrigued them greatly. They were asking questions but I didn’t want to give a direct answer until I was ready. I research the design a lot to make sure no one else had thought of it first and was unable to find anywhere that did these types of hairdressing capes.
So if you are interested in purchasing a newly designed cape let me know, (even if it is a mix of fabrics, etc you have made up yourself) contact me and we can discuss it further.
So on that topic of discussion, I will bid you good night as it is 3.15 am and my eyelids are feeling heavy.
Take care in all you do sweetie and more importantly stay safe x
The First Day of December Festivities
Sunday 1st December 2019……
Postmas No.1.
To many of you, December has come around far too quick this year, not unlike every year.
I can remember feeling the hot rays of the 25th July when it was 36 degrees without any breeze at 2:30pm here in Northampton and all I could think about was a nice cold drink to cool me down. Now all I want is hot soup to warm me up.
This year I am feeling different about December and Christmas, in a good way. I fancied a real tree this year. I wasn’t sure of the type as there are so many to choose from but Tescos had a good range.
I bought it last night to be ready for the start of December to spread the Christmas spirit. Be it a small tree, it is perfect for what I want and where I would like to put it.
I have always stayed with an artificial Christmas tree before but a fresh tree always gives that natural festive vibe and as I am very much into the natural plant way of living I thought it would be very appropriate.
So this December I am going to try to post on my website every day or as much as I possibly can so I can spread the festivities the way I know how to.
Like the youtube community who vlog every day in December, they call it ‘vlogmas’. So I will call my posts in December postmas.
So please do keep an eye open and look out for daily posts. You never know it might become a routine for me. Heres hoping……