Sunday 10th October 2021
Blog No.138
Well hello, sweetie…
It has been a while but I have been extremely busy all in all. I really can’t afford to be writing a new blog (time is of the essence) but I would like to let you know about the new additions to my Fetish Dungeon that maybe you can enjoy someday.
10/10/21
The reason I have bought these things and had them erected in my fetish photo studio Is that I want to place them on my shop on Lucy’s Fetish Closet website that I’m still working on.
It is so much fun finding amazing things to show you. A lot of stress and a lot of time is being spent doing all this homework but it will be worth it in the long run.
I have found anything from erotic biscuit cutters to chastity cages or even a full leather heavy-duty restriction bag with an attachable heavy-duty hood to match.
I found out it was better to have the hood that’s not attached to the main part of the sack as then it can be used with the different hoods if need be.
Mistress Lucys Fetish Dungeon
Perfectionist…
I have found I have become more of a perfectionist with this 2nd website than I have with this one. I know I have not designed this one and it was sculpted by a professional website designer (Thank you, Peter, much appreciated) but I have put a fair bit of content in it.
As it is with everyone, we have to start off at the bottom (excuse the pun), and as we get more confident and much more experienced we can if we wish go on and expand to big and better things.
Don’t worry I am not giving up this website, far from it. This is my early years of becoming a mistress. Without this website, I would not be what I am today.
Grateful…
I can’t believe it has been 14 years that I have been in this industry. As I say we all have to start somewhere and I am grateful for all the experiences I have gone through to get me here today.
Patience…
One of the things I have learnt and that is patience. Woweee building a website and especially my own has proved that I don’t know when to be happy.
I have been advised to build it basic and then add on to it from there on. I just find more amazing things to ad on. I’m like a child in a candy shop.
As I mentioned earlier, I have become a perfectionist in more ways than one. I know I can not learn everything overnight but I want your experience to be fantastic and not disappointing.
Maybe you come across a small mistake that makes you think I have failed at producing a so-called fabulous website that everyone has waited so long to see.
Being a Lone Trader…
Doing everything on my own is tough. I have learnt many things in these months since I started putting my thoughts into a project but having to trust someone with all the work I have done would be heart-wrenching.
Fetish Handcuffs
I know I have to someday, otherwise I am going to live a shorter quality of life with many grey hairs (i can see more appearing day by day lol).
That’s business and if we want to be our own boss then we all have to go through it.
Sound advice…
I was speaking with a friend the other day and he was telling me about the same worries he had. His were on a much larger scale but still in the same context.
Having to give up a very successful business through no fault of his own. Contracts falling through because of the economy changing.
Then his workers not being satisfied even when he was practically giving them the shirt off his back. In the end, he decided to give it all up and work alone.
Some of Mistresses Equipment
Being the only one in your company has its benefits and disadvantages.
Benefits – You can work when you want and do what you want.
Disadvantages – Saying no to clients is difficult in some trades. In the back of your mind, you don’t know when the next job is going to be with you.
Although now it’s catch 22 for my friend. As he is so particular and perfect in the way he does things he has become very popular.
Word and mouth have spread and everyone wants him. It’s great to be in demand but only to a certain level.
There is only a certain amount of hours in the day. Only a certain amount of appointments he can take in 1 day.
Now it has got enough work to cover him for 7 days a week, 24 hours a day for the next 3 months.
Conundrum… Does he take on help or not? That is the question.
Relating…
I can totally understand what he was saying to me because if I’m not careful I could be in the same situation.
Being self-employed is very tough sometimes. What I am is slightly different. Although if i took everyone that contacted me for an appointment I would be similar.
Lockdown and the past couple of years have made me think as it has done with most of us. As I take actual appointments I need to have multiple streams of income and not rely on meeting appointments.
Don’t get me wrong I do enjoy sharing my skill and enjoyment with all of you but the pandemic has really tarnished it.
Before all this pandemic situation started I was not apprehensive of meeting new clients. Now it’s like I have to ask a string of questions even before I think about inviting anyone to visit me. It’s a must and unfortunately not my fault.
Social Media…
So as you see, my absence on social media has been me sitting around doing nothing as some people tend to think and have mentioned.
It’s been far from it. I have a list of things to do around the house and in the garden etc that I really want to do (D.I.Y is my hobby) but I don’t have the time.
If I do, then the website sits waiting for another day. Trust me I annoy myself. I am more excited to get it launched than anyone on this planet.
As I know what I want to achieve and I know I can do it, I want it launched yesterday. Until it is at a standard that is flowing I will not launch it.
Now I know why e-commerce websites are so expensive to build with professional website developers. Then it is the basics that they give you.
As then I have to have my personal touch to make me mine.
Fetish Wall Of Pain or Pleasure!!
So what you see on this website has been at least 4 or more years of work. Not constant just bits and pieces here and there but it has still taken time.
Mmmmm maybe I will become a website developer once I get over the tribulations of building Lucys Fetish Closet.
There are no links to it at the moment until it is launched. Then don’t you worry everyone will know about it.
Then I will be blogging about how I’m getting only 2 hours of sleep a night because I’m on social media 24/7 lol sod’s law isn’t it.
Well, I think I have gone on enough now with my life update and need to get back to web designing.
Take care sweetie. Stay safe and healthy and talk soon…
Thursday 22nd July 2021
Blog No. 137.
This may seem like a very direct question but it is a question that a lot of people lack confidence in this subject.
They keep it secret for their own personal reason but doing this could make you lose out on fun times with your partner.
Confidence is a necessary thing to have in all you do. I say this because if you are not happy in general with your partner then they could lose interest in your relationship.
I have been mistressing for 14 years (time flies when you’re having fun) and throughout that time I have learnt a lot about relationships.
How so many guys are secretly visiting a mistress to fulfill their fantasies because they’re frightened to ask their partner to act out the fantasy in their intimate times.
Putting your partner on a pedestal can sometimes fog over your true feelings for certain fetish topics. As you don’t want them to think of you any differently that may hinder your home life.
Being a dominatrix mistress has opened up my mind in so many ways and one of them is listening to guy’s problems that they have at home.
I don’t pry but ask questions that helps me get to know why they like certain fetishes.
A lot of the time I believe that if they were to approach the subject of their fantasy to their partner in a certain way then eventually they would have a better relationship at home.
Many say that they are very happy with their wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend but if they were happy then why are they contacting me…
When a new client looks at my website they will think that an Old School Mistress like myself would only be handcuffs and caning in sessions.
My sessions are not always hardcore and toys. I am a mistress with a difference.
Through the years I have been classed as a unique mistress because of the services I incorporate in my sessions or can do depending on what the client requires.
To have a near on perfect session I always like to chat with you to start with. The reason being, so I can understand why they like a certain fetish and where the reason stems from.
Call this therapy if you wish but it is not only chatting on a settee but the appointment has a physical side to it as well.
I show you mentally and physically how you can connect deeper with your partner in ways that you may not have thought of before.
Don’t misunderstand me by thinking I will get physical with you in a sexual way. That is not what I mean as I am not that kind of mistress.
The way I connect with you is helping you become more confident in how to make your partner feel more attracted to you. How to open her mind up to accepting your fetish.
It will not be instant but over time it will happen. Be patient and you will be able to reap your reward.
I understand that not every relationship is a physical one but a bit of intimacy in or out of the bedroom towards each other will always make you smile and love your partner more than life itself.
So if you are in need of a confidence booster in whatever way you feel EG: Submissive or Dominant, Mindful or Physical then let me know by messaging me on my CONTACT PAGE and we can discuss the subject a bit more.
Whether it’s a phone session or you would like to visit me, either way, I would be glad to converse with you via email, text, and then call.
Stay safe and healthy and hope to hear from you soon…
Wednesday 14th July 2021
Blog No.136
Good evening sweetie (or good morning or afternoon depending on when you are reading this post),
Wow does time fly when you’re having fun or not…
It has been a while since we have last spoken on here. As they say never enough hours in the day.
My 2nd website (Lucys Fetish Closet) has taken up so much time and it is has taught me a lot. I know many that have released websites for new business ventures have made and launched their websites quicker.
I have been learning from scratch and building and doing everything myself. Yes, there have been friends that have been willing to help me but I think if I teach myself (as there are many successful entrepreneurs that are self-taught in many things) if something goes wrong then I will know where it went wrong.
In online business, we all have to learn how to trust people and businesses. I say this because even working on my own I still have put my website in the hands of hosting companies. They are the ones that can only deal with that side.
As a mistress, I am used to being in control of everything that I have within my business. So the trust issues that I have always had have taught me a few lessons, uncomfortable lessons but I have got through them eventually.
The launch of the website is near. It is due to be released on 1st August, fingers crossed. I have to give myself a deadline to work towards otherwise I could spend forever perfecting it.
The subscription section has to come later so I can spend time on that and build it will confidence. Trying to do everything at once is becoming impossible. So things have to be done in sections to be able to complete them to a particular standard, my standard.
So apart from the website I have been self-isolating and keeping myself healthy and away from the crazy crowds of the pandemic.
It has not been good in a way as I developed anxiety about people. If you are invited into my home for an appointment then I am fine.
If I have to go out of my front door and away from my house I am a complete mess inside. I still wear a mask for the whole time I’m out and never take it off. I also wear glasses with just glass to protect my eyes.
Call me O.T.T but I have to. It may have got a lot deeper than that and I will admit I am afraid of dying and leaving my kitties behind ( I have to stop listening to the media as it’s mainly their fault pandemic anxiety is amongst us). If I didn’t have them then I don’t think I would be like this.
Now you have seen the soft side to mistress Lucy. Yes, I do have a soft side as well as being a hard-nosed bitch sometimes.
Thinking about it and I am not getting morbid on the subject but nobody wants to leave this earth before their time. Let alone to something that we can control such as the pandemic.
If only everyone was as careful as the sensible ones then we wouldn’t be in this mess we are in right now (don’t get me on my soapbox about public mass gatherings and football matches etc). That’s a whole different subject to talk about.
Well on that note I will say bye for now and plod on with the rest of my website. I will keep you updated. Don’t worry if I’m not on social media too much but I will be when I can.
Stay safe and healthy and talk soon…
Wednesday 21st April 2021
Blog No.135.
As most of you know I have been working on sculpting my establishment to accommodate my appointments as much as can for some time now.
The Barbers Dungeon 21/04/21
As the years have passed by I have been getting more niche-type appointments instead of ‘a bit of everything’ appointments as like other mistresses who may be more comfortable doing a bit of everything.
I do very much prefer niche appointments as then I know what to prepare for. In the past, I have always looked at other dungeons and guided my decoration from their designs but never been totally happy with it.
So over the last lockdown, I have put a bit of me into the area and made the space into what I feel comfortable playing in.
Don’t get me wrong, playing to some people means totally the opposite to my type of fun. When I mean play I mean controlling my sub and slaves in outfits that make them tremble at the knees and quiver in their subspace of fantasy.
So here are a few photos of my dream barbers Dungeon. It still has a little bit to be finished but as one of my clients that knows me for around 10 years said “You will never finish decorating. As when you have finished one project your mind will wonder about another” and that is so true.
The Dark Side That Could Be Darker…
At the end of the day, it’s only lighting and a different wallpaper to change the scenery and ambiance.
I will put more up-to-date photos in my gallery for you to look at over the next few days.
So do let me know if you would like to visit my Barbers Dungeon. As long as you are healthy and virus-free I will be happy to accept your request if it abides by my ruling.
I do have the essential equipment at the point of entry to my establishment EG: a Forehead thermometer, home testing kits.
If I feel that you are not to my level of health requirements I will either decline your appointment or ask you to take a test. The results can be seen within 10 minutes but the full result is in 30 minutes.
A good percentage of my clients are respectful and if they have any symptoms of any kind and they think is out of the normal they are respectful enough to postpone their appointment untill they are fit and well again.
So I will be happy to take any inquiries by email or texts. Then we can arrange to converse on the phone if need be.
Stay well and safe and most of all keep smiling…
Saturday 17th April 2021
Blog No.134.
Good afternoon Sweetie,
I hope you are well and have kept well over the few months that have passed.
Now how do I start…It’s been a little while since I last spoke to you but after 5 months of lockdown, we are now on the first or second stage ( don’t know which stage we are in but I know it’s either of them) of a slightly better life. Although Monday the 12th April people went a little bit crazy on the celebrating and I just hope that does send us plummeting back into another lockdown again.
I have been extremely busy with burring my head in the website business as like before. I am plodding through it but the thing that is slowing me down is perfection.
I’m not saying it has to perfect in a professional way but perfect in my way. As the years have gone past I have become a perfectionist in certain things and my mistressing and career (which really I can call it that now) are definitely one of those things that I am particular in.
I feel that I owe a lot to you. As without you, I wouldn’t be where I am today. You’ve helped me grow my confidence in many areas that once upon a time I wouldn’t even try to attempt, let alone succeed in my dreams.
The new website has also helped me decide to be the true me. I still am Mistress Lucy but to do business you can not have anything to hide.
So that is why you will see in many places I will be my own name and answer to my real name. I will say one thing though… if you want to session with me I must be known as Mistress Lucy and stay as Mistress Lucy or lucy on a friendlier point.
It puts me in the right frame of mind as trying to switch at the flick of a button is possible but you won’t get the best out of me that way.
A few people in the past because they have seen my real name on my email address they have addressed as that. I have been very annoyed with them back then.
This is why I say you need to address me as you mean to go on.
So I thought I would keep you updated with is going on with me at the moment. Many have thought I have given up mistressing because I have not been on social media so much lately.
I am still here but the website takes up so much time, you wouldn’t believe.
At one point I was working nocturnally for a good few weeks. This was because I would get into what I was doing and just continue on till my eyes would refuse to stay open anymore.
I did know at some point in the previous weeks that were getting closer to now that I would have to get back into a normal (I’m never normal lol) but a going to bed at 12 midnightish and getting up at 9amish ( i say ish because some times it was earlier and sometimes it was a little later). So I would be in routine for taking my appointments again.
So Monday 12th April arrives, the week starting back taking appointments….
It felt a little strange I will admit. I felt like a beginner again. I have moved my upstairs around to benefit the popularity of my appointments so everything was in a different place. Finding out where things were was a bit daunting ( like in someone else’s Dungeon) but i familarised myself with everything fairly quickly.
I was lucky as my first appointment was a gent i had known for a while and he wasn’t too hardcore. A little chatting whilst a trim of the outgrown hairstyle he was wearing and then mild tie and tease to satisfy his needs.
I always go with the flow. If you have a checklist in your mind and then the body language doesn’t agree with what you are doing it needs to change to accommodate his happy side of kinky.
I only take 1 appointment a day. As i prefer to take 2-3 hour appointments. Then if it goes overtime then it’s not a problem.
I don’t do what I do for only tribute but bills need to be paid. So this is why I say if it goes over time because we are enjoying ourselves (or i’m enjoying myself teasing you lol) we can carry on and I won’t ask or expect any more tribute.
I will say…Many have gifted me with extra tribute and actual gifts but that is completely down to you. I am not demanding in any way and do not expect it.
The rest of the week was my long-term eager clients/friends that were desperate for haircuts and another pair of hands on them in whatever way I chose to do so.
Being used to my own time for the past 5 months or longer has made me do as I please. Having appointments does give me a routine as I’m sure you agree.
I now truly know that mistressing is in my blood. I knew that before but the experience over the years has made me realize that I will never change.
The sad news of Prince Philip’s passing has made me also realize that I may have Mistress Lucy engraved on my headstone.
‘Mistress Lucy a powerful but hard businesswoman, that wouldn’t take any backchat from anyone. She will be missed but will be tattooed on every heart that she has punished’.
I’m not being down on the subject but just being reflective. As we all have a good thing or 2 that we would like to be remembered for.